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How to increase emotional intelligence

"There is no greater purpose or joy than being of service to others."

-Wil Turner

We all come across people who are very keen listeners, either in our private lives or at work. People with a high degree of emotional intelligence are more considerate and in tune with the emotional, physical, and social needs or hierarchy of needs of themselves and others. Even if they don’t have a solution to the problems of others; they are at least empathetic and available at any time to listen or help others in crisis and to process.

In such cases, those who are emotionally intelligent individuals are motivated by the idea of service to others and being of support to those who may be undergoing stressful times or emotional duress. Emotionally intelligent individuals are socially active and excellent in decision-making as they are better equipped at trusting their intuitions and insights. In respect of their strengths, such individuals are acutely emotionally, and socially transparent, and self-aware.

They are also aware of how and when to provide constructive feedback without bias or judgment. They know themselves and others when at their best and worst, while at the same time also conscientious of the emotional, physical, and social needs of those in their personal and professional lives.

So, the question arises, would you consider yourself an emotionally intelligent person?

As more and more people become aware of the concept and their degree of emotional intelligence; such depth of introspectiveness in retribution further enhances one's emotional, personal, social, and professional growth.

What exactly is Emotional intelligence?

Emotional intelligence plays an essential role in this regard. All of us have different personalities, emotional, physical, and social needs, or different ways of expressing our emotions. To navigate our way through the process of all the above entails tenacity, self-awareness, patience, and objectivity; especially if one hopes for success in nurturing healthy personal and professional relationships and procuring a healthy and happy life or life-work balance.

Now, back to the point. Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to recognize their emotions, understand what elicits their emotions, and how their emotional reactions impact themselves and the people around them. It is also important to note that what you think of yourself is a reflection of how you may perceive others to think of you. Short of allowing others to emotionally take you for granted, or advantage of your kindness, care, and empathy for them; being mindful of others' intrinsic emotional, physical, and social needs is duly a gift and a curse if one is not careful.

The Characteristic of An Emotionally Intelligent Person

  • · Find joy in helping others

  • · Are good listeners.

  • · Are acutely self-aware.

  • · People who possess high emotional intelligence skills are most successful at completing tasks and in life in general.

  • · Their agenda is always to procure the health, happiness, and success of the whole.

  • · They are genuinely transparent, caring, and honest.

  • · Fair and objective.

  • · Non-Judgmental.

  • · Are genuinely caring, nurturing, and giving to all.

  • · Are reciprocally appreciative and grateful.

  • · Resourceful at helping others problem solve and process.

Whenever others need support, help, or guidance, those who are emotionally intelligent are naturally motivated to help in any way they can. As a result of these characteristics, most are successful and possess the ability in making others feel good.

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How to increase your IQ and EQ?

The good news is that emotional intelligence can be developed and improved over time, with concerted practice of course. Refer to the tips mentioned below for increasing your IQ and EQ levels:

  • · Observe how you interact and react to people. Ask yourself whether you are rushing to make a judgment without knowing all the requisite facts and whether you are formulating scenarios that do not exist or stereotype?

  • · Pay keen attention to your thought process.

  • · Also, do not forget to be open towards the needs and perspectives of others.

  • · Be receptive to constructive advice from your family member, loved one, spouse, friend, or co-worker.

  • · Pay utmost attention to your social environment. Determine whether you are seeking superficial attention.

  • · Humility is a non-deniable and vital quality for us all to have.

  • · Hold yourself and your loved ones accountable for each doing you equal parts to nurture your relationships by communication, accommodation, celebration, and affirmation.

  • · Whenever you make a mistake or possibly hurt someone's feelings, acknowledge the role you play in the scenario. Be proactive, and not reactive in addressing possibly emotionally challenging situations.

  • · Communicate what it is you need from your family members, loved ones, spouse, friends, or co-workers.

  • · Be supportive regarding the emotional and social needs of others. Not every situation is always or only about you.

  • · Lastly, accept the fact that you are not perfect. We all fall short of the expectations of those we love at some point, if not often in some cases.

The bottom line

Apart from the fact that emotional intelligence is vital for achieving success in one’s life, it subsequently plays a crucial part in helping one achieve their goals, relating well to others, and nurturing healthy and happy relationships with those in their lives.

The More You Know The More You Grow

Studies show that having emotional intelligence attributes to one's quality of life and success. Thus, almost all companies use the emotional intelligence IQ test as a measure for hiring new staff.

Emotional intelligence also refers to one being aware of an individual’s emotional, physical, and social needs and how their feelings and actions affect the people around them. This also means that such individuals are good listeners which lends the characteristics mentioned in the previous blog to "How To Be A Good Friend".

Those who have family members. Friends, loved ones, or spouses who possess the characteristics of someone who is emotionally intelligent are truly blessed.

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Be healthy! Be happy, always. Keep sharing those smiles.

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