“The quantity of friends we have doesn’t measure the quality of our relationships.“
-WiL Turner
Relationships don’t have to be complicated. There is no greater sense of happiness than
knowing those we love and care for; also love and care for us.
Love language is a very renowned theory for assisting people in establishing healthy
relationships. It enables one to understand the needs of themselves, their loved ones, and
co-workers. Keeping in mind, one’s individual love languages may differ from one to the
other. Knowing your love language, and the love language of those you interact with on a
personal, emotional, social, and professional basis are important.
This article will assist you in understanding the principles and importance of knowing your love language. Be sure to take the love language quiz at the end of this blog. You will be glad you did.
What are some most important love languages?
There are five highly important love languages; which include acts of service, the giving of
gifts, physical touch, and affirmation. Each of these love languages represents an exclusive
expression of love, social, emotional, and physical validation.
The love language theory was ascertained by Gary Chapman in the nineteenth century. It
claims that each person possesses a unique set of human, emotional, social and physical needs. For example, some people feel they are appreciated whenever they hear ”I Love You” from their loved ones, family members, friends, or spouses. Others may feel loved, appreciated or validated when they receive gifts or spend time with their family, friends, loved ones or spouses.
Others may perceive physical touch as a token of appreciation and affection. Therefore, one can express their feelings and appreciation towards others either through physical touch,
through words of affirmation, or giving. Knowing one’s Love language nurture meaningful
and healthy relationships.
A basic review of love languages
Words of affirmation refer to the verbal expression of care, validation, or affection for your
loved ones. People who are more self aware or intrinsically understand the concept of love language, most likely appreciate receiving and giving are fall under two or more of the love language categories. For instance, words like ”I love you” and ”you look cute today” show direct communication of affection towards their loved ones.
A basic review of the love languages:
● Physical touch includes cuddling, kissing, or holding hands. People who possess this
love language tend to enjoy the touch of their loved ones, which is another sign of
affection. This also includes being physically close to one another.
● Spending time together is related to the quality time that one spends together while
enjoying the company of those they love. Those whose love language relates to time;
prefer making regular plans for spending quality time with their loved ones, friends, partners, or spouses. In this case, there need not be a special occasion, or event. If you
enjoy spending time with your loved ones, whether it is a fancy restaurant, date night,
catching up, or talking while lounging on the couch at home.
● Gift-giving is the most popular love language. It refers to giving physical items to
someone to show your feelings of appreciation. Numerous people prefer giving a gift
items to express their love, affection, and care. Such people prefer expressions of
appreciation and love that are more tangible. There is no better token of appreciation
than the feeling of knowing someone thought of you enough to give you a gift , remembers your birthday, or takes it upon themselves to celebrate you in some way or vice
versa. Not to say that the superficiality of gift-giving measure the degree
unto which one cares for us.
● Acts of service are selfless and thoughtful gestures that may brighten someone’s day.
This includes simple acts such as bringing food whenever your family member, loved,
or friend is sick, making tea or coffee in the morning for them, or being willing to
sacrifice personal time for those you love.
Take The Quiz:
To build healthier relationships with those you love, check the several signs of emotionally co-dependent relationships to better comprehend where you stand in your relationship and to nurture ways you can better bond with your family members, loved ones, friends, or spouses.
People who are more self-aware of their love language tend to possess the innate ability to accommodate the love language, emotional and social needs of others. Those who are self-aware, and aware of the needs of others, make for great friends and spouses.
How can you know your love language?
To figure out your language of love, pay keen attention to how you express affection towards your loved ones, family members, friends, or spouses and how they express affection towards you. Reading the blog on how to be a good friend with someone will also help you put things into perspective when it comes to doing your part to be a good friend.
Ask yourself the following questions:
● What qualities do I have that make me a good friend?
● Do my family members, friends or spouse possess the characteristics to reciprocate or accommodate your emotional and social needs?
● Do you prefer one on one quality time with your loved ones?
● Do you feel most validated whenever anyone compliments you?
● Do you love giving and receiving gifts from your loved ones?
● Do you feel safe, or most comfortable when you are around those you love?
In conclusion: Knowing one’s love language is extremely crucial in all categories of relationships. Being able to candidly communicate, express your affection or appreciation for those you love makes for healthier, happier, and lasting relationships. Those who can ascertain which of the love languages you prefer quite often are those able to reciprocate. The most efficient and effective way of knowing your loved one’s language is simply asking them about which of the above five languages suit them best.
The answer to this question will provide you with the information you need to be the kind of person, you prefer others to be for you. Being aware of such primary love language will enable you to nurture your relationships in a genuine way. While at the same time supporting your loved ones affectionately, emotionally, and socially.
As long as you continue to strive to be a better person than you were yesterday, you are well on the way towards living the healthy and happy life you deserve. Improve the way you think, look, feel, socially interact, give and live. Subscribe today by visiting livingwithwil.com to read more about similar topics and to listen to the Living From Within Podcast, hosted by Wil Turner.
